A good friend of mine often talks to me of the “curse of the empath”, we feel EVERYTHING and that being so we can see both sides of any situation even the situations in which we’ve been wronged.
In my healing journey, I have encountered a few potholes in the form of people I can’t seem to forgive. The trauma of my pregnancy holds many players and characters, most of which I have blocked from my life or ignored. As I move deeper and deeper into my commitment to heal I keep arriving at these potholes. The first few times, I gingerly stepped over the pothole without a second thought but lately these potholes have become harder to ignore and step over. The Universe is sending me a clear message, “deal with it”
Last week as I was busy preparing for my event, The Goddess Harvest, I ran face first into a rather large pothole, my old roommate who terrorized me during the early stages of my pregnancy. In the moment, I remained calm and proceeded to ignore her as I have been doing but her presence in my space and the space of my child who I feared miscarriage at the hands of her mistreatment triggered something deep inside of me. She reminded me of the Doula community that I felt abandoned by, I remembered my belongings being thrown out by my Doula roommate assisted by my conscience community, I felt the deep sense of dread and hopelessness I faced when looking for a Doula, the loneliness and disappointment. As I fell silently down that slope of remembering and the knot in my solar plexus grew bigger and harder I realized I had to do something. I could no longer just ignore it, I had to face it, forgive it, and move forward.
I’ve always been a writer and have found my catharsis in writing so I’ve decided to return to what I know for this next level of healing. Over the next month I will be writing letters of forgiveness and apology to those whom I’ve blocked out. I realize that every story has two sides so I will be using my “empath curse” to see my hurt from both my side and the side of the “other” I will be telling the most painful part of my story and releasing it back to the Universe with the intention of healing myself and if possible those relationships where they were left. For most I will be saying good bye with a clear and light heart and for others I will be asking for reconciliation. I don’t have any real expectation for communication or even reciprocation, what I do expect is to free myself of the weight of the trauma I experienced during my pregnancy in order to move forward on my healing journey. To be honest, I’m not even sure I will be sharing or sending the letters but I will be freeing myself of the weight of unforgiveness and victimization. Any and all of my reflection and revelation I will post about under the title of the Freedom Project. If there is anyone out there who needs the same process feel free to contact me so we may journey and support each other through!
– Trauma Mama
*****Trauma Mama is a Doula, Reiki Master, and Poet who resides in the Baltimore area of Maryland. She works with other mothers who have had traumatic birth experiences and others in general looking for healing via more natural healing modalities. She serves mothers during their birth experiences whether the birth is at home or in the hospital. She also conducts workshops on a range of topics. For more information on services please contact 443-889-0930****
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